Comments on: Trauma: Incest http://bodyconversations.com/blog/2010/04/trauma-incest/ Resources to recognize, understand, and heal trauma responses. Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:20:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dr. Babbel http://bodyconversations.com/blog/2010/04/trauma-incest/comment-page-1/#comment-3580 Dr. Babbel Thu, 28 Oct 2010 00:12:14 +0000 http://bodyconversations.com/blog/?p=203#comment-3580 Hello, I know this sounds horrible and frightening but I highly recommend that you both-your son and you-report your sister to the child protective services. Even though it has been a long time, perpetrators don’t usually stop and continue to abuse others. I have had clients where their sibling turned out to have abused pretty much every cousin and relative he could get his hands on. They just never found out because most people don’t talk about it. Please, check in with your other children as well. Additionally, it would be good for you both to go to a therapist who specializes in trauma as well. Books can help (and I would read as much as you can) to speed up the healing process and help you understand your trauma but they usually don’t work by themselves efficiently enough. I support you in confronting your sister if it is safe and if you have no expectations on how she will respond. Most often, perpetrators have no idea that they did anything wrong or even act as if they don’t remember. Often they were abused themselves and think this is normal. If she thought that there was something wrong, she would have looked for help. Let me know if there is anything else I can help you with. Just know it is possible to heal from all this. You will always remember what happened but the pain and the symptoms can be reduced and/or disappear. Warmly, Dr. Susanne Babbel http://www.bodyconversations.com Hello,
I know this sounds horrible and frightening but I highly recommend that you both-your son and you-report your sister to the child protective services. Even though it has been a long time, perpetrators don’t usually stop and continue to abuse others. I have had clients where their sibling turned out to have abused pretty much every cousin and relative he could get his hands on. They just never found out because most people don’t talk about it. Please, check in with your other children as well.
Additionally, it would be good for you both to go to a therapist who specializes in trauma as well. Books can help (and I would read as much as you can) to speed up the healing process and help you understand your trauma but they usually don’t work by themselves efficiently enough.
I support you in confronting your sister if it is safe and if you have no expectations on how she will respond. Most often, perpetrators have no idea that they did anything wrong or even act as if they don’t remember. Often they were abused themselves and think this is normal. If she thought that there was something wrong, she would have looked for help.
Let me know if there is anything else I can help you with.
Just know it is possible to heal from all this. You will always remember what happened but the pain and the symptoms can be reduced and/or disappear.

Warmly,

Dr. Susanne Babbel
http://www.bodyconversations.com

]]> By: Victoria http://bodyconversations.com/blog/2010/04/trauma-incest/comment-page-1/#comment-1180 Victoria Mon, 14 Jun 2010 13:25:05 +0000 http://bodyconversations.com/blog/?p=203#comment-1180 I am a 47 yr old women with three children my oldest now 28 and when he was 4 he was sexually abused by his aunt -- my sister -- although I could never really approach her -- with this subject because of my mothers constant abusive attitude towards me I feel still resentful and hurt and after all these years ( well I found out when my son was 14 he told me then) I wonder how to deal with as many things have hurt me over the years with this issue. Is there any help or internet information I could read about as I feel very isolated not understanding this I am a 47 yr old women with three children my oldest now 28 and when he was 4 he was sexually abused by his aunt — my sister — although I could never really approach her — with this subject because of my mothers constant abusive attitude towards me I feel still resentful and hurt and after all these years ( well I found out when my son was 14 he told me then) I wonder how to deal with as many things have hurt me over the years with this issue. Is there any help or internet information I could read about as I feel very isolated not understanding this

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